Do you see this pic??? Ladies, this is how many of us get broken! Who taught women that we had to sacrifice everything for our men. Why is she literally missing a leg and her eyes and he is all good! I hope this visual gives you a rude awakening if you needed it!
This was me, I’ve sacrificed my all for knuckle heads who weren’t worth the sacrifice of my pinky toe nail. But yet still I would have given my eyes and leg to “keep them happy” and make the relationship work. And I wasn’t even married to them.
When I entered into my relationship with my loving husband I thought I had to operate the same way. I started like the “chosen wife” on the movie Coming to America, “Whatever food you like!” This drove him crazy but I literally gave myself away so much that I had to relearn what I liked and wanted. And had to make taking care of me a priority and my marriage has been even greater because of it!
If you are not married you should NOT be making sacrifices for a man period! The man has to leave the comfort of home and start preparing a home for his wife.
Mark 10:7 For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother to establish a home with his wife,
Ladies please take a look at this pic. If this is you:
- Forgive yourself for giving away too much of yourself
- Forgive the man for allowing you to do this
- Take some time to love on yourself, to understand your self-worth and to set up some healthy boundaries to be ready for the next relationship
- Promise yourself that your life will never look like that pic again
In a “marital”relationship that is healthy both should be sacrificing for one another for the best interest of the marriage. Submission and leadership requires some sacrifice. But, there shouldn’t be one that’s handicapped because of it.
According to scripture if anyone has to be missing eyes and a leg. It should be the man:
Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;